Are you someone who recognises that you have a hidden grief? This grief can be so deep within us that it takes a long time for us to allow it to surface and recognise it for what it is.
Grief can be beneath many big emotions, and most of us carry grief of some kind. Anger can be a symptom of unresolved grief.
The child within us responds to all the situations in the only way it knows how to protect us. This is where I know you. I see you. For I’ve been there also.
Responses can include a short fuse on emotions - but it can also be withdrawing and feeling small and unloved and unappreciated. It is not about what happened. The child within is grieving what did not happen for us ... feeling unsupported, dismissed, fearful and so on. The reasons why you were forced to find a way to protect yourself, or even to bring yourself up.
There are many reasons for hidden grief. This post is just about one example that leads to overwhelm.
Let us consider one situation where you took on the role of protector.
It may be that you were the oldest daughter who became the protector of the family, even though all you ever felt was unsafe. Or, the child who replaced older siblings in being the responsible one …
For some of you it may be that you were the only child.
Or you became the only child because your older siblings were a lot older than you and left home leaving you to be the anchor for your parents. Or you are carrying grief for older siblings who died. Or you may feel that you were not wanted in some way, but you feel responsible. And you now feel that you are responsible for everyone in your life. And it’s now getting to the stage where it is all too much. This is overwhelm. And you are not alone in this.
You may feel a crying and deep sadness within your soul.
Some of you might even feel, ‘what’s the point?’ And these feelings of lack of self worth are often hidden from those you are in connection with, including your loved ones. And you have forgotten when it all began. When you lost your feeling and worth of ‘self’.
But now, there is a rising within you. You are a person who wants something better. You want to break inherited  generational cycles of trauma, to diffuse self beliefs that are not aligned to your soul and replace them with new self-beliefs, and to ultimately find the lost parts of you. And you are ready to begin.
I have encouraging news for you …
The truth is that you are the very person you are looking for.
If you feel the calling, then it’s time, echoed in your heart, to understand that it is no longer your job to fix, be perfect or neglect yourself to be what others need or perceive you to be.
This is some of the inner healing work that I do with women.
And please believe me, there is a sense of wonder to the inner work. There is such relief when a person has an ‘aha’ moment and receives some inner healing and restoration.Â
Aligning to your inner heart is freedom to live your best life.
Restoration is something precious.
Healing is so that you can be the best version of yourself. And find joy.
Yes, it is a journey less travelled. But it is a journey that is so worthwhile. No experience is necessary. Just a willingness to look within and hear what your soul wants you to know.
If you are a woman who feels ready to change how they feel about themselves, work on what has been passed down generationally to heal what is not helpful to you, and increase your confidence and self worth, please feel free to contact me and begin your own wondrous transformational journey.
You are so much more than you imagine!
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