Years ago there was a focus on the stages of grief.

That is no longer considered the best approach.

Grief is now person-centred because each person has influences, beliefs and styles according to their own circumstances and cultural background.

Stages of grief are no longer a 'given'.

We are encouraged to continue bonds with loved ones, but in a new way that is supportive, balanced and comfortable in the present.

Again this is individual.

There are four identified categories of loss*:

• Relationship loss (loved ones - loved pets)

• Loss of some aspect of self - no longer being able to dance, play music, teach, create or be able to speak up for themselves and so on.

• Developmental Changes - losses in life, moving, new stage of life, change of life etc.

• Loss of treasured objects or mementos - this often happens in separation, divorce, 'acts of God', weather, war, disaster, moving away and so on.
   

Download the booklet I created to read more. This booklet has is for both adults and some tips on how to discuss grief with children.